Introduction
Defiling the Human Body
Millions Upon Millions in America
Marriage – A Blood Covenant
What is Sex
Church & Sexual Immorality
Never Judge
High Risk Behaviors
Why Would Someone Become Sexually Immoral?
Waiting on the Lord
Cohabitation
Summary
Written by: Elizabeth
Oath of God Ministries
Our bodies are sacred to God and were designed as vessels of worship. Our lips to praise His Name; Our ears to hear His still soft voice; Our eyes to behold His Righteousness; Our uplifted palms and outstretched arms to receive His blessings and Our feet to walk upon the paths of righteousness for His Name sake. For the born-again Christian believer – our bodies are the temple for the indwelling Holy Spirit. “For you are the temple of the living God. As God has said: I will dwell in them, And walk among them. I will be their God, And they shall be My people.” (2 Cor 6:16)
Perhaps you do not have a relationship with Christ Jesus and therefore do not understand God’s perspective on sexual boundaries. God desires to both guide and bless you in all areas of your life including your sexuality. 
Because God cares about your welfare, His boundaries are designed for your protection. “For God did not send His Son into the world to condemn the world, but that the world through Him might be saved.” (Jhn 3:17) Maybe your friends or family never warned you about sexual boundaries. Perhaps they may not have known about God’s biblical laws on sexual sobriety. Indeed God wants every aspect of your life under His care even when the difficult topic is about sex. On the same note, if you are a born-again Christian who is not in the Word of God on a regular basis, you may also have a clouded perspective on God’s biblical precepts regarding sexual sobriety. Perhaps your visit to our website is not a coincidence. Hopefully everyone will now have an opportunity to learn more about God’s point of view on this critical issue.
Since the world at large is at enmity with God and will tell you that having sex with anyone at any time is permissible, let’s see how God views sex outside of marriage. “For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies. These are the things which defile a man.” (Mat 15:19) The Greek word for fornication is “porneia”. The English word “pornography” has its root meaning in porneia. According to Strong’s G4202 (biblical concordance) the Greek translation of porneia is defined as “different types of sexual immorality which includes illicit sexual intercourse, adultery, fornication, homosexuality, lesbianism, intercourse with animals, incest, and intercourse with a divorced man or woman. It also can take on the meaning of defilement through different forms of idolatry.” Back To Top
Sexual impurity or fornication is sin which defiles one’s body before God. It is also considered rebellion against God. The scripture lists this sin in the same sentence alongside murders and adulteries. Merriam Webster defines fornication as “consensual sexual intercourse between two persons not married to each other”. In other words, any unmarried man or women regardless of their respective age who is having sex with a member of the opposite sex, is committing fornication, a type of sexual immorality. Adultery on the other hand is when a married person, man or woman, has sex outside of marriage with another person other than their spouse. Apostle Paul, writes, “For this you know, that no fornicator, unclean person, nor covetous man, who is an idolater, has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and God. Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of these things the wrath of God comes upon the sons of disobedience.” (Eph 5:5-6) God’s declaration in this scripture is that immoral behaviors and deeds will bring His wrath upon unbelievers. In American culture, there exists an inordinately high level of promiscuity. Television unabashedly promotes promiscuity as do magazines and the internet. The promotion of sex is everywhere so it’s easy to believe that you can have sex with anyone at any time and not bear any consequences for your actions. You will learn, however, that there are consequences in the spiritual, physical and emotional realms when a person is involved with sexual immorality because it is a basic rebellion against God. Back To Top
Millions upon Millions in America
Although sexual immorality is an extremely offensive sin to God, millions upon millions in America are indulging in premarital sex as if it mattered not. Many people will ask, “What’s the big deal. No one is getting hurt. Why would God not want me to have sex with my boyfriend or girlfriend?” Let’s remember that our Heavenly Creator designed sex which makes Him, not erring human beings, the expert on the subject matter. He designed it, however, to take place within the confines of marriage between a man and woman. God fully understands the purpose, beauty and function of sex within the framework of His foreordained design which purposes intimacy between married couples. God’s design for sexual integrity protects the married couple, their respective family unit and society as a whole from harm’s way. “Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.” (Heb 13:4) Back To Top
There are many blood covenants throughout the Old and New Testament. Because life is in the blood, this type of covenant agreement is the most binding contract and always points to some critical aspect of Jesus’ Crucifixion. In the Old Testament we read, “For the life of the flesh is in the blood, and I have given it to you upon the altar to make atonement for your souls; for it is the blood that makes atonement for the soul.” (Lev.17:11) In the New Testament Jesus states, “For this is My blood of the new covenant, which is shed for many for the remission of sins.” (Mat 26:28) God also made blood covenants with Adam, Noah, Abraham and David. The Mosiac Law had many different animal sacrifices where the blood of bulls and goats temporarily removed the sin of God’s people. All of these animal sacrifices pointed to the Blood of the Lamb who would eventually come as Christ Jesus to take away the sins of the world.
In God’s eyes, marriage is also a type of binding blood covenant between a man and woman. God requires both the man and woman to be virgins prior to marriage. The marriage is consummated as a blood covenant between the husband and wife when the new bride’s hymen is pierced for the first time through sexual intercourse with her husband. Once the hymen is pierced and blood appears the woman’s virginity is also proven. This specific blood covenant was designed by God to take place only between the male husband and the female wife.
Now let’s review another scripture. “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” (Eph 5:31) What does this mean? Apostle Paul explains, “This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church.” (Eph 5:32) Marriage between a husband and wife is representative of Christ’s spiritual headship over the church where each born-again believer is a living member of His Body. Corporately speaking, the Body of Christ, comprising individual believers, is one with Christ who is the Bridegroom. The Body of Christ or the Church is His Bride. As believers, we are legally betrothed to Him. In ancient Jewish culture the betrothal period was a binding agreement between the engaged parties and was viewed with the utmost seriousness. The marriage of the Lamb will take place in heaven as described in Rev 19:7-8: “Let us be glad and rejoice and give Him glory, for the marriage of the Lamb has come, and His wife has made herself ready. And to her it was granted to be arrayed in fine linen, clean and bright, for the fine linen is the righteous acts of the saints.”
As Christ is the head of the church so is the husband the head of the wife. This is for her protection. In Ephesians 5:22-33 this mystery is more fully explained. “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the Word, that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones.” (Eph 22-33)
Clearly Apostle Paul’s words do not depict a marriage where the man dominates his wife like a bully but quite the contrary where he loves his wife as Christ loved the church and died for it. The depth of love depicted in Ephesians 22-23 is an ongoing sacrificial love which every husband in Christ Jesus should express towards his wife.
Even still Christ explains how we are one with Him as He is One with the Father. Jesus prayed, “that they all may be one, as You, Father, are in Me, and I in You; that they also may be one in Us, that the world may believe that You sent Me.” (Jhn 17:21)
Christ laid down His life for His Bride (Body of Christ) so that we too might have a covenant relationship with Our Heavenly Father through Him. It was the shedding of His Holy Blood on the Cross that made this covenant relationship possible. So husbands must also love their wives as Christ loved the Church and died for her. Back To Top
What is Sex: John Mark Comer
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Sexual immorality is also running rampart in today’s church culture. There are believers who continually claim Christ Jesus as their personal Savior while nailing Him to the Cross in an open shame by way of their sexual sins. Only God knows whether these individuals who regularly attend church have a genuine relationship with Christ Jesus but Apostle Paul cautions other believers not to associate with them. “But now I have written to you not to keep company with anyone named a brother, who is sexually immoral, or covetous, or an idolater, or a reviler, or a drunkard, or an extortioner—not even to eat with such a person.” (I Cor 5:11) According to Strong’s Concordance, the Greek word for “brother” is adelphos. When translated to English it means “a brother, or member of the same religious community, especially a fellow-Christian.” We can all agree that Apostle Paul’s words are very strong yet his sentiment is a reflection of just how offensive a sexually immoral lifestyle is to God Almighty.
For the born-again Christian believer, who has the indwelling Holy Spirit, this is an especially grievous sin. When a believer is using his/her body for sexual immorality, the indwelling Holy Spirit is forced into dishonorable activities and positions which are completely offensive to Him.
Believers must realize that sexual immorality 
makes a mockery of Christ Jesus to the unbelieving world. We are warned not to grieve the Holy Spirit. If repentance is not forthcoming, God’s rod of chastisement will intervene to correct any believer involved in sexual immorality. Chastisement may feel grievous to the believer but it will bear the peaceful fruit of righteousness in due time. God’s mercy of discipline can often times feel like judgment. Nevertheless, God disciplines a believer from a standpoint of Love, not wrath.
Apostle Paul further writes “For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you should abstain from sexual immorality; that each of you should know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, (I Thes 4:3) Apostle Paul grieved at the reports that Christians were involved with fornication and various sexual immoralities. “…..and I shall mourn for many who have sinned before and have not repented of the uncleanness, fornication, and lewdness which they have practiced. (2 Cor 12:21) The loving forgiveness of Christ Jesus is always available for the repentant believer. “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” Sexual sin can result in God not healing a physical condition or mental impairment. Therefore one’s confession of sin and cry for help will usher in God’s assistance. It is specific repentance that places the believer’s relationship in right standing again with God. Apostle Paul further warns the believer, “Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body.” (I Cor 6:13)
In the spiritual realm, sinning against your own body is like taking a baseball bat and pounding your body with sin over and over again. Eventually the sin will take its toll by manifesting itself in your body or upon your mind. From a spiritual standpoint, God may ultimately remove His hedge of protection in some area of your life. Men and women who are involved with fornication need to realize that God is not obligated to protect them from the consequences of sexual immorality. This may lead to sexually transmitted diseases or some other form of illness. “Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows, that he will also reap.” (Gal 6:7-8) Turning to God with a humble and repentant heart over your sexual sins can usher in God’s mercy, protection and guidance. Our Heavenly Father desires to redirect your steps to the place where blessings flourish. “And all these blessings shall come upon you and overtake you, because you obey the voice of the LORD your God” (Deu 28:2) Back To Top
Apostle Paul further instructs us to never judge non-believers outside the church who are involved in sexual immorality because God alone will judge them. Our responsibility as believers is to be the salt and light in this world to all those we encounter. We are to navigate with wisdom and discretion but not to judge others outside the church. We can, however, judge believers within the church by speaking the truth in love regarding any errant sexual immorality in their lives. A believer should humbly ask God in prayer how to approach this matter once sexual immorality has been exposed in another believer’s life. “For what have I to do with judging those also who are outside? Do you not judge those who are inside? But those who are outside, God judges. (I Cr 5:12-13) In some cases, the believer may need to speak to a church leader regarding this matter should the situation require it. Back To Top
Those involved with sexual sins are definitely getting hurt. If God hasn’t placed His blessing on a particular decision or behavior – you’re clearly not going to be blessed. Anyone who is in direct rebellion against God, will eventually count his losses. Yes, we will lose every battle and we will lose the war as well whenever we attempt to rule over God because we have no power over God. We may think we are winning and having our way but in reality we are losing. Sexual sins will undermine your spiritual, physical health and emotional well-being whenever you engage in any type of sexual immorality outside of marriage. You may not feel like you are getting hurt but give it time. Sexual immorality is a high risk behavior for anyone.
Looking at the bigger picture, sexual impurity does lead to the breakdown of society because the family unit is undermined. Against God’s will, co-habitation is replacing marriage. Sexual immorality has also contributed to the high rate of abortion which is the shedding of innocent blood. When the laws of any nation under-gird abortion you can expect God’s judgment to eventually fall upon that nation. For other individuals promiscuity may lead to sexual addictions and pornography which are on the rise and where more and more younger victims are taken captive each year. Promiscuity can also lead to sexually transmitted diseases, some of which have immediate and permanent repercussions to one’s health and may interfere with an individual’s future marital relationship.
Couples involved in sexual relations outside of marriage are at a higher risk of experiencing infidelity from the other partner because commitment was tenuous from the onset. Infidelity doesn’t always occur but should it emerge the dismissed partner frequently rebounds into yet another relationship under very similar conditions and whereby sexual sobriety is abandoned once again. Sadly, our culture has become idolatrous and pagan where the God of the bible is forgotten or was never known and where each new generation becomes increasingly involved in a deeper level of promiscuity.
Since the sexually impure individual is no longer living within the peripheral boundaries of God’s protection and has entered a realm of rebellion and darkness – a demonic spirit might attach itself to one partner and may very well begin attaching itself to the other. Emotional or behavioral problems may manifest in both partners. Yoked in unrighteousness they both become anchored in a sinful lifestyle which progressively separates them from God. Overtime both partners will view their immoral lifestyle as perfectly normal despite the fact that this behavior is an egregious sin in God’s eyes.
Eventually, God may remove His hedge of protection thereby allowing the sinner to reap the consequences of his or her sin. One or both partners may experience chronic illness or disease because fornication is a continual sin against one’s own body. Confusion and emotional instability might become a reality since both individuals are involved with behaviors outside God’s protective custody. It’s important to note, however, that every person in the general population experiencing these same manifestations is not necessarily involved in sexual immorality. There are, however, both direct and indirect ties to these consequences whenever sexual immorality and fornication are found to have a foothold in a person’s life.
It is also possible that a woman may become pregnant despite the fact the God designed pregnancy to take place within the protected boundaries of a committed marriage between a man and women grounded in a biblical viewpoint. God does not demand the biblical viewpoint; He simply offers it to everyone for their own protection. It’s a lifestyle choice.
For the unwed mother, however, unexpected financial challenges may ultimately bear consequences on the rearing of her newborn baby. Unless the unwed mother has an extended family to assist in the rearing of her children, she may be forced to rely on welfare thereby burdening an already overloaded government-assisted program. In turn, she may become habitually dependent on a system rather than dependent on God for all her provisional needs. This is also considered idolatry.
Becoming overly zealous in seeking a husband to support her children she may marry the wrong man in haste. Once married, divorce may loom in the background and become imminent or she may decide to cohabit with yet another uncommitted partner. These risk behaviors will eventually take a toll on the upbringing of her children leading to further instability in the family’s home life. For other women, an unexpected pregnancy may lead to abortion which is the premeditated killing of an unborn child. Back To Top
Why Would Someone Become Sexually Immoral?
What might cause someone to get involved in sexual immorality? Besides the inordinate amount of exposure to sex on television, the internet and magazines, there are psychological reasons as well. In today’s dating scene, having sex is the rule and not the exception. It is expected. People enter and leave relationships haphazardly without any moral or biblical compass to help them determine the character of the person they are dating. Sadly many women deceive themselves believing that they will never get their man unless they provide sex. The woman is actually selling off the purity of her body for a man that may or may not commit to her in marriage. On the other hand, a man may not marry a woman unless he knows beforehand that the female is sexually compatible with him. It’s like trying on a pair of shoes. If they don’t fit – they are tossed aside. Separately, as a woman gets older she may hear her biological clock frantically ticking away. Her race against time to have children can oftentimes result in a rash decision to choose a partner whereby her ability to properly judge character becomes clouded and ill-directed.
On the other hand, some people must have a member of the opposite sex in their midst at all times. They believe that they have failed if they remain dateless or single. Many people are afraid of being alone. This identity problem can lead to choosing relationships out of convenience which are doomed from the beginning but slow to realize.
Despite the reason for couples engaging in premarital sex – it remains a very serious problem in today’s pagan society and a more critical problem when it is found inside the church. Back To Top
Many testimonies have been written by women who finally found a godly man to marry. They all declared that it was well worth the wait. Their testimonies appear to have the same pattern to them. Each woman realized that she had to wait patiently on the Lord before getting married. As each woman continued to pray for the Lord to send her the right man the desire to marry actually disappeared. In other words, the neediness to marry was minimized while each woman continued to build a stronger relationship with her Heavenly Father through Christ Jesus. Although they no longer desired marriage as much as before – because of their contentment in the Lord – it was at this point when God finally brought the right man into each woman’s life.
The Lord wants marriages to succeed but He wants this accomplished in Him and on the foundation He alone has built. We are in great danger whenever we feel needy for marriage because this is the threshold where wrong decisions are often made. We are complete only in the Lord. A husband or wife is a blessing but no person can ever take the place of Christ Jesus. That empty spot will remain empty until the individual invites Christ Jesus into his/her life. Back To Top
Some unbelievers will cohabit. No Christian living under God’s grace should ever be found cohabiting with a member of the opposite sex. The Free Dictionary defines cohabitation as “To live together in a sexual relationship, especially when not legally married.” In the New York Time’s April 13, 2012 article titled, “The Downside of Cohabiting Before Marriage”, by Meg Jay, a clinical psychologist writes, “When researchers ask cohabiters these questions, partners often have different, unspoken — even unconscious — agendas. Women are more likely to view cohabitation as a step toward marriage, while men are more likely to see it as a way to test a relationship or postpone commitment, and this gender asymmetry is associated with negative interactions and lower levels of commitment even after the relationship progresses to marriage. One thing men and women do agree on, however, is that their standards for a live-in partner are lower than they are for a spouse.” She adds, “The best time to work on someone’s marriage is before he or she has one,” and in our era, that may mean before cohabitation.”
This is a clinical psychologist’s opinion of cohabitation. God’s point of view about cohabitation is that it’s a sinful lifestyle bearing consequences in the spiritual, health, physical and emotional realms of one’s life. Back To Top
In the Book of Revelation which describes the end days where God’s wrath comes upon the earth, people will refuse to repent over their sins which includes the sin of sexual immorality. “But the rest of mankind, who were not killed by these plagues, did not repent of the works of their hands, that they should not worship demons, and idols of gold, silver, brass, stone, and wood, which can neither see nor hear nor walk. And they did not repent of their murders or their sorceries or their sexual immorality or their thefts.” (Rev 9:20) Here again, sexual immorality is listed alongside murder and theft.
If you do not know Christ Jesus as your Personal Savior and you are involved in sexual sins, know that God is a God of second chances. By repenting of your sins and receiving Christ Jesus as your personal Savior, God will forgive all your sins and not just your sexual sins. He will give you the strength in Christ Jesus to maintain sexual sobriety throughout your walk with Him. Once forgiven in Christ Jesus, your Heavenly Father doesn’t go back in time and remind you of past trespasses. All sins are forgiven and forgotten by God.
Christ Jesus stated to Nicodemus that he must be born-again which is true for everyone else in the world. “Jesus answered and said to him, “Most assuredly, I say to you, unless one is born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God.” (Jhn 3:3) When you become a born-again believer, you become a new creation in Christ Jesus where your sins are completely forgotten by God. You will receive the indwelling Spirit of God at that moment. Our Heavenly Father now has the opportunity to fellowship with you because you have been adopted into a Holy Family and can now be called the son or daughter of the Most High God. The Holy Blood that was shed on the Cross at Calvary provided the remission (forgiveness) of your sins. Your life will never be the same. “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.” (2 Cr 5:17)
You can become a renewed virgin in Christ Jesus in this new creation. Should you fail but confess, He will pick you up, dust you off, hold your hand and walk with you anew until the enemy has no further power over you in this area. He’s a wonderful Father who deeply desires to help you! Back To Top